Therapist Spotlight: Kristy Demers
What made you decide to become a counselor?
I have always loved connecting with people. Once I woke up to my own journey of healing, growth, and self-love, it seemed natural to support others on their journey as well.
If you could teach the world one skill or technique to improve their lives, what would it be?
Self-regualtion. So many hurtful things are done and said (to ourselves and others) in moments of anger. The more aware we become of our body's response to feelings, the quicker we will be able to calm our bodies and minds with whatever tools we find most helpful. Whether we are upset with our children or partner, we will only be heard if we first connect and then redirect (or discuss).
Have you personally been in counseling and if so, what did you learn about yourself?
Counseling has been an imperative part of my healing and growth journey. I have learned so much about myself, including how much stronger I am than I thought. I also learned the importance of listening to my body and trusting my own intuition more.
If you could recommend one book to all your clients, what would it be?
I can't narrow it down to one, so I will say The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. van der Kolk and The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
Who is your ideal client?
Someone who is willing to show up for themselves and do the work.
What inspires you to help others?
Others that help others and human connection.
How do you personally practice self-care?
I practice self care by meditating, being outside, and spending time with people
that lift me up.
If you are hosting a dinner party, who are the 3 people you would invite and why? My grandma and grandpa, because I miss them, and Jesus. Religious beliefs aside, I would love to hear what that guy has to say about pretty much anything.
How do you relate to Mindfulness? How do you incorporate it in your sessions?
Mindfulness is a big part of my life and something I strive to practice daily. Sometimes through meditation, sometimes by taking time to think before I respond, and sometimes by doing a quick body scan and taking a few deep breaths. I incorporate mindfulness into my sessions through discussion and introducing different tools so clients can decide what feels helpful and works for them.